Monday, April 5, 2010

MALAY WEDDING: Bertunang (Engagement)

After discussions, the engagement ceremony will be held. The men will be represented by family members and closest relatives to the ceremony engaged. On that day, some feast will be held in conjunction with the engagement of the woman at home parties. Submissions like 'Barangan Hantaran' or presents consisting of 'Tepak Sirih' or 'Sirih Junjung', a ring, and some additional stuff like fruits, confectionery, clothing and many more will be given to the future wife.



By custom also, if the woman has an elder sister who still unmarried, the submission of presents will be give to her. This custom is called 'Langkah Bendul'. Number of presents are unique, which somewhat odd because the amount of five, seven, nine, eleven or thirteen, because it is said that the implication of even numbers are not good.Total delivery given by the woman will exceed the number of delivers by men. The custom to give expanses for wedding is also held during the engagement is conducted. However, sometimes it is run separately after a few weeks before the ceremony 'Persandingan' or reception conducted.




This ceremony will be initiated with representatives of the men to submit 'Tepak Sirih' to woman representatives and state their status officially. 'Pantun' or funny poem is often used in the ceremony as an intention to enliven that event. After the engagement was officially adopted, representatives of both parties will discuss the expanses of marriage, the engagement period and other related matters. The time period of engagement is usually one year or by consent of both parties.

The highlight of the ceremony during the engagement ring is put on the ring finger of future wife by the representatives of the male consisting of mother or sister. After that, engagement is already official.

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